“It’s not the events of our lives that shape us but our beliefs as to what those events mean” – Tony Robbins
Do you base your actions on the past? On your life experiences so far? On what other people have told you that you can or can’t do or that you should or shouldn’t do?
How about a few more questions?
How much do you believe in yourself? Do you set a ceiling on how far you think you’ll get in life, on what you believe you can achieve based on your current job, family environment, past successes/failures etc.?
Ever wondered why you do this?
Let’s start at the beginning: what exactly is a belief?
In short, beliefs are ideas, principles and, very often, unsubstantiated notions about things such as who we are and how the world works. Where did we get these beliefs? From our parents, schoolteachers, friends, the media…. the list goes on. Echoing the words of the Author, Forbes Robbins Blair, “we base our beliefs on our preconceived limits of reality. Our beliefs represent our perceptions of the way things are. And, just as a person’s eyesight or hearing can have limitations or be impaired, our perceptions of reality can be extremely limited or impaired.”
Now, let’s get straight to the point.
Did you know that a belief is merely a thought that we keep on thinking?
In fact, we’ve had the same thought so many times that it’s become a belief. The problem is that our beliefs govern our decisions; we use them to decide what to do. And what we do, i.e. our actions, creates the results we’re getting in life. In short, it’s a simple formula:
Thoughts → Beliefs → Actions → Results
So now you know why you keep getting the same results, why your life is always “same old same old”. The answer lies in the above formula: your life is a result of thinking the same thoughts.
The first question you now have to ask yourself is “are my beliefs beneficial to me?”
Beliefs that support us and our happiness are the ones we need, not the beliefs that hold us back, the ones that say “I could never do that,” or “that job’s out of my league” or “things like that just don’t happen to me”. Well, sorry to break it to you (spoiler alert) but if you think like that, you’ll never do that thing or get that job or have those things happen to you. Because based on those beliefs about how you see yourself, you’ll play small, staying within your comfort zone, no matter how “uncomfortable” it makes you feel at times, making decisions that reassure your thinking. And…… you’ll keep getting “small” results.
But what would happen if you suddenly woke up from this “dream” of limitations?
What if you realized that you, and everyone else for that matter, have unlimited potential and that you just need to start changing your perspectives, about life, about what is possible and about what you deserve?
According to Bronnie Ware, Author of “The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying”, the greatest regret people have is I wish I’d had the courage to live the life that I knew I was destined to live. Now imagine you’re 80 years old, looking back over your life with your grandchildren, how would you like to tell it? What would you like to say? I’m sure you wouldn’t want to talk about a life of “fitting in” with the status quo, doing what everyone expected of you, about how fear of failure/rejection stopped you in your tracks. Wouldn’t it be better to talk about the time when you decided to change your thinking and really start living? Doing what you loved? Really feeling alive, living on purpose?
So where do you start?
How can you begin to think differently, change your negative beliefs?
Start with these three questions:
- Am I 100% certain that my belief is true?
Do I know for sure that I’ll fail, that I’m not good enough, etc.
- What if……?
How would my life be different if I didn’t believe that?
- What is the first step I can take today that will bring me nearer to what I really want?
It can be a baby step or a bigger step, whichever feels right. You just need to get the ball rolling in the right direction.
When you stop inventing possible catastrophic scenarios about unknown future events (merely based on your current beliefs) and you change your perception of what is possible, your life simply changes for the better. When you forget the can’t, shoulds, tomorrows, if onlys, and start seeing yourself in a new light, you’ll start behaving differently, doing new things and you’ll start getting new results.
Let me finish with a question from the Philosopher and Author, Wayne Dyer: do you want to live 90 years or 1 year 90 times?
So what are you waiting for? Your new life awaits….
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?” – Marianne Williamson
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