Do you have Loser’s Limp?
The first time I heard this expression was in a book by Zig Ziglar, “See you at the Top”. Let me explain what “Loser’s Limp” is by painting you a picture: imagine you’re at a football game and you see an attacker speed off with the ball towards the goal with a defender in hot pursuit behind him. But after a few yards, the defender realizes that he’ll never been able to catch him so rather than admit defeat, he pulls up suddenly and starts limping so that the crowd thinks “oh the poor thing, if he hadn’t hurt himself, he would have caught him”. When in fact, all he’s actually done is give up.
Sound familiar? Let’s face it, we’ve all done this at least once in our life. When we didn’t want to admit that our mistakes or lack of progress or failure to achieve something were our responsibility. We chose to play the victim, blame others – our colleagues, parents, education, society…. We said, “I’m not a born X, I’m not a natural Y. He shouldn’t have done this. If she hadn’t said that.” If only….!
Loser’s limp often appears the easy way out in the short term but in fact it hinders our progress and slowly eats away at our self-esteem. Because deep down we know the truth: we were too scared to admit failure.
When in fact all we need to remember is that mistakes are just a question of perspective. Some see failure while others see a way to learn. As Wayne Dyer once said, if we go through life focusing on our faults, mistakes, regrets, we miss it! We miss the beauty of the world. We miss the opportunities that are placed on our path. We miss the chance to reach our true potential.
So, in short, instead of playing limp, what should we be doing? We need to overcome this hidden fear of not being good enough, of not meeting others’ expectations, of what others might say, of not following the status quo….
Now imagine running towards your goal, exhilarated and determined, not allowing the obstacles across your path to slow your pace. Imagine having a “devil may care” attitude about making mistakes because, after all, they’re just stepping stones on your journey to the podium. How does that feel?
And last but not least, take the time to stop and ask yourself the following questions:
- What am I really afraid of? What is the worst thing that could happen?
- Can I handle it?
- What is the cost of not taking action and staying as I am?
- How would I feel if I was successful?
Ready, steady……. go!
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