1. You’re afraid you don’t have the talent.
2. You’re afraid you won’t earn enough money.
3. You’re afraid people will laugh at you if you don’t succeed.
4. You’re afraid you have nothing special to offer.
5. You’re afraid that other people have already done what you want to do and better than you ever could.
6. You’re afraid you don’t have enough time to commit.
7. You’re afraid the grass won’t be as green as you thought.
8. You’re afraid of what other people will say about you.
9. You’re afraid you’re too old or it’s too late.
10. You’re afraid you’ll lack the motivation to go all the way.
11. You’re afraid of being successful (yes believe it or not, this is a blockage for some people as they think their life will change for the worse)

Pssst…hey… let me tell you a little secret.
Most of these fears, I’ve experienced in my life.
And guess what? ….. Wait for it (drum roll) ….. They NEVER happened!
Often, it was just my excuse to continue procrastinating and not act on my intuition (even though I didn’t realize it at the time).
A safe way out from taking action.
The Big Leap into the Unknown.

So here are my answers to help you blast those fears into oblivion:

1. You’re afraid you don’t have the talent.
Ask your friends, family and colleagues if they think you have the talent. If the majority answer is a big no AND you also feel deep down that they are right but that you KNOW this is what you feel in your heart you’re meant to do, then start learning, reading, following people who have done what you want to do, find a mentor…
Chunk it right down into baby steps if you want so that you don’t feel overwhelmed. But at least promise me you’ll do one thing, START!

2. You’re afraid you won’t earn enough money.
How do you know that you won’t earn enough money? Have you researched other people who do the same thing and measured their success? (And even if they’re not successful, that doesn’t mean you won’t be either). Study what other people are doing in your field and find out what is missing and what you can add as your unique self. Creativity is the key!

3. You’re afraid people will laugh at you if you don’t succeed.
Ok, this one may date back to our schooldays when we tripped up and we got laughed at? We all have a pet hate of people mocking our “failures” but be honest, has anyone actually laughed at you and been happy you didn’t succeed RECENTLY?

4. You’re afraid you have nothing special to offer.
We’ve all got something inside of us, hidden treasure as it were, that we’re meant to discover and bring out into the world. Something different that no one else can bring. Find out what it is. That is what you can offer.

5. You’re afraid that other people have already done what you want to do and better than you ever could.
Stop comparing yourself to everyone else! I’m sure that many people you now admire also used to compare themselves to everyone else but that was before they found their buried treasure (like I mentioned above) and made the spotlight shine on them. Once you get those jewels out into the world, you’re invincible!

6. You’re afraid you don’t have enough time to commit.
If we really want something, i.e. it’s our dream in life, then we’re motivated and we find the time. But to do this, we need to take back control of our lives, start making our own choices instead of letting others make them for us and having the courage to say “no” to people when the time isn’t right.

7. You’re afraid the grass won’t be as green as you thought.
Follow your intuition. Is this really something you would love to do? How do you feel when you think about it? Are you excited, happy, energized? How will you feel if you never do this? Will you have regrets? Your answers will help you on this one.

8. You’re afraid of what other people will say about you.
Just remember that, most of the time, other people are too busy worrying about their own little lives to have time to think about yours. But more importantly, if you are doing what you’re meant to be doing in your life, i.e. you’ve found your passion and purpose, then you’ll be oozing magnetism and happiness and this is going to shine through to everyone else. So yes, they’ll be talking about you but in a good way saying “I’ll have what she’s having”!

9. You’re afraid you’re too old or it’s too late.
Deep down you know that it’s never too late. That’s just an excuse to stay in your comfort zone. I’ve heard of people who are over 80 going to University and getting a degree, learning new languages or getting married! Our brain keeps making connections until the day we die so we still have a whole load of learning potential within us that we shouldn’t waste. So, no, I’m not letting you get away with that one!

10. You’re afraid you’ll lack the motivation to go all the way.
Same as for number 6. Check your motivation. Can you imagine what your life will be like if you don’t take action? What is the cost of not moving forward? How do you feel when you imagine your best life? Keep that feeling and whilst you’re in its midst, write out your own little mantra reminding you of what you want and then hang it in different places (on the bathroom mirror, in your wardrobe, above the kitchen sink, on your fridge, next to your steering wheel etc.) and read it regularly so that the feeling can inspire you to action.

11. You’re afraid of being successful (yes believe it or not, this is a blockage for some people as they think their life will change for the worse)

Perhaps when you were growing up, you created a belief that success could only bring unhappiness. Perhaps you overheard your parents arguing because one was neglecting the other due to a successful & busy career. Or perhaps it stems from the fact that you perceive many successful people or celebrities to be very unhappy and lonely: “the price of success/fame” as they say. Whatever the reason it may be, keep asking yourself where this belief comes from and break it down at each level until you get to its very source.
Your belief is not real, it is just a perception and you can change it.
It merely stems from a thought (associated with an emotion) you had at a specific moment and due to regularly practicing this thought, it became a habit and transformed into a belief.
Consider this belief to be like a table and remove its legs so that it can’t stand up anymore. You can do this by asking yourself 4 things that make you uphold this belief and then “cutting them down” by logically explaining to yourself that they have no foundation. For example: “I have learnt from the errors of my parents so I know that I would never actually neglect my partner even if I was successful because I know how to avoid the pitfalls”. Or “Success does bring happiness as I could help my favorite charities with my increased earnings” etc. etc.
Finally, replace this belief with a new positive mantra that you regularly repeat so that you start to recondition your brain into a new way of thinking. Remember that if you do something enough, i.e. it becomes a habit, the neural pathways you connected when creating this mantra become stronger and stronger. Eventually the old belief will literally fade away as your brain will no longer be using it.

Well, I hope I’ve given you some food for thought concerning your fears about living your best life.

Remember though that if you do feel fearful, don’t beat yourself up about it. You can even feel appreciative of it for trying to protect you.

The most important thing is that you pause and see it for what it is: False Evidence Appearing Real.

The negative emotion you’re feeling is a signal from your inner guidance system telling you: “that’s not an accurate thought you’re thinking there my dear! It’s the reason why you’re not feeling happy at the moment. Just get aligned with me, everything is ok!”

As said so perfectly by Abraham Hicks: “Well it doesn’t matter how rational or irrational it is. Fear always means the same thing. You’re broadcasting in opposition to the broadcast of your Inner Being.

Let me know if you have any questions or if your big fear is not associated with any of the above and you’d like some advice.

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